Keyshia Coles show is the reason why I am a fan of her now; before I did not care for her. I forced myself to watch last years season show, I could not wait to view the second season. Keyshia has grown on me due to her real-ness as a human-being, and the obstacles she encountered throughout her life. She is a strong, determined, ambitious, talented, and a family oriented person. I have to respect her acheivements as a young black woman, her heart as a human-being, and her bravery for daring to involve herself in her family members personal affairs in efforts to break old chains and forge new links for the newest generation of her family to become strongly yoked together.

Concerning Neffie, I for one do not believe in abortions, not in the sense of how she conceived her child. Not judging Neffie, but a moment of pleasure can bring a life time of pain. Lucky for Neffie it only conceived a child and not HIV, AIDS, or any form of STD. For Neffie to abort her child, and put the blame on her current circumstance to seal her decision, I personally think that is a lame excuse, I am utterly surprised with the decision Neffie made. I understand she is scared, I understand she feel she is by herself and the decision is her to make. I think Neffie should consider how her children will feel when they find out their mother aborted a sister or brother they could have had. Moreover, Neffie need to consider how this experience of aborting her child will affect her in the future such as, waking up in the night feeling a baby need to be nurtured, her breast dripping of milk and thier is no baby to suckle them. The nightmares, the nights of no sleep because of regret, and the mothering side affects of not having an infant to hold.

Last, concerning Frankie, she need help psycologically. Frankie need to learn who she is first of all things. Frankie many years of cracking and then the time she spent in jail, she lost her identity and her purpose in life. Frankie need to be socialized to the culture life, to the culture of her children, and to the culture of the way it is in a civilized way of life.

Frankie chances of being respected by her children, she never gave her-self that opportunity. And in the finally, Frankie was acting so silly how could her children respect a fool.

More power to Keyshia for doing what she is doing and I love her for who she is and will become in the future.

FIRST AND FOREMOST I WOULD LIKE TO SAY GOD BLESS TO KEYSHIA AND HER FAMILY AND THIS JOURNEY THEY ARE TAKING THROUGH LIFE. I KNOW EXACTLY HOW KEYSHIA FEELS AND WHAT SHE'S GOING THROUGH I HAD A MOTHER AND FATHER ON DRUGS AND THROUGH THE GRACE OF GOOD AND DERTIMANATION FROM MY MOTHER SHE GOT CLEANED AND CONTINUED TO RAISED HER KIDS, YET UNLIKE KEYSHIA DURING MY MOM DRUGS DAY A FAMILY MEMEBER TOOK ME IN AND IT WASNT SO NICE.BUT I GOT OVER THAT ALL BECAUSE MY MOM DID THE BEST SHE COULD WITH MINUMIM EDUCATION AND A LOSEY FATHER. KEYSHIA YOU ARE WHO CAN BREAK THE FAMILY CURSE AND SHOW YOUR NEICES A POSITIVE ROLE MODEL TO LOOK UP TO THATS NOT TO SAY THAT YOUR SISTER ISNT BECAUSE I RELATE TO HEAR ALSO BECAUSE IM A SINGLE MOM, AND NEFFY I DONT BELIEVE AND ABORTIONS BUT I FEEL LIKE ITS THE PERSON CHOICE TO DO WHATS RIGHT FOR THEM AND FOR SOME REASON I THINK YOU DID THE RIGHT THING I FEEL YOUR PAIN AND STRUGGLE BECAUSE IT IS MINES. KEYSHIA DONT WORRY ABOUT HOW GHETTO YOUR FAMILY IS BECAUSE I SEEN BOTH SEASON YOU WILL NEVER BE ABLE TO CHANGE THEM BUT JUST EXCEPT THEM FOR WHAT THEY ARE LIKE YOU DO. I CRIED WHEN KEYSHIA AND HER FAMILY CRIED BECAUSE I FELT THEIR PAIN BECAUSE IT IS MINES. KEYSHIA YOU ARE A WONDERFUL ROLE MODEL WHO HAS ACCOMPLISHED A LOT AND OVERCOMED ALL YOUR TRAILS AND TRUIBULATIONS. YOUR MY ROLE MODEL AS I STRUGGLING WRITER YOU GIVE ME HOPE AND DETERMINATION. I WILL LIKE TO THANK YOU FOR ALLOWING THE WORLD INTO YOUR LIFE THE WAY YOU HAVE BECAUSE THAT IS NOT A EASY TASK, YET YOU DID IT WITH GRACE, MUCH LOVE AND LONG JEVITY. YOUR NUMBER 1 FAN PHILLYKNOWLEDGE

Correction, not to be funny, but Frankie gave all her children up. What Frankie did not do is abort any of her children. I do not believe in abortions, I want Neffie to keep her child if it is not to late. Moreover, I do not think Frankie was to convincing to Neffie with her speech on not aborting any of her seven children. Neffie is scared, Neffie need a friend, and Neffie want to be her own woman. I believe Neffie understand she need to do this for herself and not feel like she is leaching off her sister Keyshia. Yes, we all know Keyshia will support Neffie all the way, but Neffie, I believe, is trying to stand on her own two feet and showing her children she is their mom and their mom alone. On the other hand, concerning Frankie, she stated "I have seven children, four I am with and three I have to catch-up to". Well, Frankie caught up with two of the three on the strength of Keyshia. If not for Keyshia she would not have seen them. Furthermore, the two lost siblings were not impressed with their new found biological mother. Frankie character is still as the crack-head she see portrayed for many, many, and many years.

I really enjoyed the show. Nefee's decision to abort her baby is her decision. HOPEFULLY she will find it in her heart to keep the baby b/c NO we dont pay her bills but I do know that anything that GOD creates isn't ment to be killed. I myself am only 22 with 3 kids from the same guy and even though we are NOT together GOD knows that I would NOT trade them for anything in the world. Our life may not go as we plan but GOD doesn't create mistakes...Anywayz I love you Keyshia and I hope that there is Seaon 3...Keep up the good work

they shouldnt do so much arguin on a family reunion and just have some fun save the arguing for when they get home

I really like neffie and feel bad for what she went through in her life.  She is not playing a victim and i think that she is the most real person on the show. She hasnt changed nothing just because there are cameras around and that is how you know she is straight up real

<BLOCKQUOTE><table width="85%"><tr><td class="txt4"><img src="/Themes/default/images/icon-quote.gif">&nbsp;<strong>mistyblue217 wrote:</strong></td></tr><tr><td class="quoteTable"><table width="100%"><tr><td width="100%" valign="top" class="txt4">You've watched all the drama unfold for the season, now tell us what you really think about everything that went down. How do you feel about Neffe's decision? Do you think Frankie will ever get closer to her children? Do you think it's important that Keyshia finds her real father? Tell us exactly how you feel, then check out the producer's blog, videos, recaps, pictures from the show and more on the <A href="http://www.bet.com/OnTV/BETShows/keyshiacole/default.htm?">Keyshia Cole page</A>.</td></tr></table></td></tr></table></BLOCKQUOTE>

First of all let me say that i love your show. Now everybody deserves a second chance in life. Nobody in this lifetime is without sin. Frankie son said he wanted to reunite with his mom. Which means by-gones she be just that in public. As soon as he got on the bus he had so many facial expressions as if he was embarassed. Marquisha was ready to start as soon as she got on that bus. Neffe did the correct thing by defending her mom whether she is wrong or right. And to me it seems as if Keyshia didn't give them the benefit of the doubt. In my eyes they did not start. Did anyone ever stop to think that Frankie was nervous about seeing her children after all that time? And Keyshia I was starting to believe that some of the drama you were liking because, why everytime you have a gathering you are the last to make it? I understand you have to work in all, but keep it real you know how the fam is . And my family is loud just like that. And to end this all I have to say is "May he without sin cast the first stone".

Yes, Frankie did have all seven of her children- But she did not raise any of them. That says alot please open your eyes- which is worse having an abortion of having children without knowing/raising them. Sometimes one more child can keep your hand out beggin for bread,. In short you would be knowingly put your other children in a greater danger of poverty and less attention. -Keep in mind Neffe has 3 girls that are at the ages where they need alot of attention to prevent them from the dangers their grandmother, aunt andmother had to face.The same opinionated people that say yeah have that baby would be the same people nowhere to be found when its time to vote for programs that support single moms and surely would not and are not of support with their own family members and friends that are struggling as single parent. So whatever, never had an abortion and I am currently a mother of three. I love children and , as a social worker I assist single parents with large families and I am still looking for the support of the familiy members and foolish friends that were so judgemental in telling young ladies to have the child and they would not support them if they were to have an abortion. I THINK THEY SHOULD KEEP IT REAL YOU DONT SUPPORT ABORTION, BUT YOU ARE NOT GOING TO HELP SUPPORT THE CHILD. I believe Neffe is growing in the right direction, I could see she was not having an abortion to be selfish, but to do right by the 3 beautiful girls she have. Keisha was a blessing to tell her sister she had her back if she had the baby, but as a real women you can't have no baby and expect others to care for it , which is why I feel Neffe is growing to be an independent women- she already was strong as she endured the biggest deception with her husband. So she will be alright. So prove me wrong all of you that are saying she is wrong for abortingthe baby and help someone that did not chose abortion- Thought not!!

All of you that are a blessing in situations like this(like Mrs/ Mr. Cole) this does not apply to you....

 

You don't have any rights trying to act all high class!WE all have problems and we all have been in situation that we have lost our cool. Whether its in public or in the privacy of our own homes.You act like we as blacks are a/an embrassment to you but guess what whites act like that to. You see more whites acting like that than blacks. Blacks can regain there appeance and they are doing it. You're a business woman and so I'm I. I'm a RN and I'm getting ready to start my catering and go back to school to become a OB-GYN. So to tell you the truth I'm glad to see that somebody put a reality t.v. show on  television because it's letting us know that we all go through problems and we have to dig deep within ourselves to over come them. Neffe I'm so proud of you because you have made a 100% change. Evgen though I'm not for abortions you have to do what's right for you. Frankie keep up the good work and learn to forgive. And to Keyshia you're my idol. I've been through alot in my life time and I'm still working towards my goal and you motivate me. You let me know that no matter what you go through you can still come out on top.

<BLOCKQUOTE><table width="85%"><tr><td class="txt4"><img src="/Themes/default/images/icon-quote.gif">&nbsp;<strong>esfly01 wrote:</strong></td></tr><tr><td class="quoteTable"><table width="100%"><tr><td width="100%" valign="top" class="txt4"><P>Neffie's situation irritates the crap out of me!  She is a poster child for triflin black mother.  Your hood a** all out in the street arguing.  Grow up and use some birth control!  I hate when women depend on everyone else to take care of their kids!  Get a JOB like the rest of us and stop depending on your sister. And how about not screwing a crack head raw dog.  Jesus you think one would learn after the 1st, 2nd, or 3rd child.  But no, and here you are again, in the same predicament. Did you ever think that maybe if you took off the long fake nails and red weave that maybe, just maybe it may be easier to find a job and you own place to stay, instead of depending on your sister to always bail you out.</P> <P> </P> <P>GROW UP</P></td></tr></table></td></tr></table></BLOCKQUOTE> <br><br><br> Neffie said she didnt know that man was on drugs first of all. And second of all her 3 children are by her husband. This would have been the first child she would have had by a man that wasn't so I dont know what you're talking about. And honestly, I dont think you do either. And if you had watched all of the shows then you would know that she did get a job. She got a job working at a toll booth. And she got the job because she said she didnt want to depend on her sister.

And as for my in general comment. I dont believe in abortion FOR ME. But for somebody else they have to do what they feel is right for them. Frankie is saying that she birthed all her children. Yeah she did but that was about all she did for them. Her daughter wants to do more than just birth her children. She wants to actually be a mother to them and I can't blame her. As for the family reunion, it started off all wrong. And Frankie knows what she did and I think she is just ashamed and jealous. She's ashamed of what she did and she is jealous of the bond Keyshia got with the Coles. And I was wondering why did he call Keyshia and she talk to him but when her sister calls she hung up.

I want to respond to your challenge in proving you wrong for Neffie having an abortion. First, no one can be wrong for their personal opinion on any topic of discussion. You point of view is yours and you have the right to be fully entitled to your opinion. Second, it is not the fact of being right or wrong on the issue of abortion. Making the decision before engaging in sexual activity(s) is where the right or wrong decision is made.

 

Last, you being a social working, it seem as though you are looking for answers to help your young single mothers in the wrong area. I think you being a social worker you would consider the source of the problem which is, the young single mothers. As you being a social worker, you have the authority to say to the young single mothers to keep their legs shut due to their promiscuous behaviors. This will prevent conception and becoming a statistic, and contracting a STD such as HIV, AIDS, and so on.

 

In reference to Neffie, she had sex with a man who she said she only known for six weeks. I believe, at the time Neffie discovered she was pregnant, Neffie was two or four weeks pregnant. So what does that tell us about Neffie in relation to her decision to have sex with strangers she knows not? Furthermore, was not Neffie first concern before considering having an abortion if she had a disease or not because she found out this strange man she had sex with was a drug user. In addition, Neffie further discovered this strange man who she is pregnant by will not be involved in this child to be life. It just makes one say “Hum”.

 

 Then Neffie went to Oakland California to see her husband to get him back in her and her children life. Neffie was rejected by her husband because she was pregnant by some other man. Neffie tried to justify her self by admitting her wrong but concluded by saying her husband was wrong for sleeping with her first cousin. After Neffie returned to Atlanta Georgia she then considered having an abortion.

 

I assume Neffie believe if she can get rid of the child she would have a better chance getting back with her husband.

 

With out a doubt you and I can debate on abortion until we are blue in the face. We would continually disagree with one another. Therefore, let’s look at the issue of abortion from the perspective of moral obligation. First, are we morally obligated to one another? I believe yes. Why I say yes, because my actions affect you and your actions affect me. For example one, cigarette smoke inhaled into the lungs over a period of time causes lung cancer. Who made the decision to smoke, the person who smoked the cigarette? Now the person has lung cancer after smoking a pack of cigarettes a day for 35 years. This person can not work anymore because of the cancer, and has no more health insurance because he is unemployed. How do his problems affect you and me? Who will be paying for this persons time of hospitalization; in all reality you and I will and we will do so in the form of the Medicare taxes.

 

Example two, say one of your children admires this person who smoke cigarettes and you are not aware. Your child begin to smoke cigarettes because is role model looks cool when he smokes. Your child has been smoking everyday an unknown amount of cigarettes for a period of five years. Your child develops cancer in the mouth because of his smoking habit. You ask your child how long he has been smoking; his answer is, “since I was 11 years old”. You ask your child, “why are you smoking”, he answers “because when so and so smokes he looks cool, I want to look cool to”. Who will you blame for your child smoking that caused him to have cancer in the mouth? Was this person your child admired morally obligated to your son? Yes, why? Because the person knew smoking is dangerous and it causes cancer. He has a moral obligation to prevent your child from harming his self, but he did not.

 

Looking at abortion from the perspective of moral obligation, where as a society or to what extent as a society is are we morally obligated to preserving our future? Is it not a popular saying “the children is our future”? Therefore, if every mother in the world decided to have an abortion, let hypothetically say, for a span of 15 years, a generation and a half will be lost. Hypothetically, how will we be affected as a people because of woman around the globe collectively choose to abort their fetus for the above stated time? Can you imagine elementary schools being empty, for 15 plus years? Day care services will be out of business, the toy making industry will plummet. Children hospitals around the world will have to be restructured and what about all the amusement parks around the world. The gap of 15 plus years of having no children playing around the world psychologically will affect all mankind, physically will affect all mankind. Not only mankind it will affect, nature itself will be affected.

 

Having a 15 year campaign of abortions globally is a stretch. But for all the abortions that are factual, how are each individual abortion affect those of who was not aborted. If you were aborted your children would not be here today. Furthermore, because you where not aborted, how have your life affect the world around you. Maybe you suppose to have been a lawyer in this life, but you are not because 15 years before you were born a mother decided to have an abortion and aborted the woman that was going to be the inspiration for you to be that lawyer. Morally, I think we are obligated to say to Neffie, “NO, do not abort your baby”. Neffie could be carrying the next Marvin Gaye yall. Some of us was born because our parents were listening to Sexual Healing and decided to heal each other physically in the bedroom. That could have been the night you were conceived.

 

In closing, I do not know if I achieved proving you wrong, but one thing for sure, I achieved looking at abortion from a different perspective. I hope this message reach you.

 

Much love to Neffie, Keyshia Cole and family

 

P.S.

 

This message applies to all!

 

I think that Neffe should not terminate the pregnancy.

The show was a very intense show it was very real and showed things that was too much 4 TV...You have alot of kids out here that somethings on their should have been edited out. I am a true fan and love Keyshia's music and still will support her in whatever she does... but like her I have 2 keep it real. I also feel as thought she needs to clean her closet out meaning her surroundings some of the people around her are there for the wrong reasons...If she is the person that I know she is she will look at the show after it's over and it will be a learning experience...and a wake -up call as well. God put people in our lives 2 show us what he has been trying 2 tell us and he also removes people as well looking back at the show she knows in heart what she needs 2 do... Keyshia you are a child of "God" and he loves you as I do and many others out there so u continue 2 be the strong black woman u are and let him order your steps and and all your hopes and dreams will come 2 pass...Your future is bright just remove the negative that surrounds you cause it can block your blessings that lye ahead....