I'm asking this because I want to see what a normal healthy debate is supposed to sound like and how do you solve the problem or do you just stop talking about it and it resurfaces?

I've been in a relationship everybody here knows that had serious downs. I could not stand to argue with him AT ALL!! because there was no merit. There was no out come it was a filibuster of an argument meaning it went on and on without solution.

What are your normal arguments I ask this so that I can get a better understanding of what a healthy disagreement looks like.

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If theres one thing about being in a relationship, its that every relationship is different.

My fiance and I dont argue that much, and its not because we agree on everything, its because she dont know how to, or even, like to argue. i can argue with someone and ones it off my chest we're good but she isnt like that. If she upsets me, all i have to do is go quiet and she knows. that alone is enought o make her feel bad.

Even if i snap at her, she'll take it so personal so thats enough lol. One of my close friends argues with his girl so much it almost turns physical. but it work for them because they are both loud and vocal.

we argure about little thing like her talking whilst i'm watching the new, spending too much money on shoes, and even not doing her part of the chores, But you know what, when you are ina relationship, its cool to let things slidf before you talk about it. IF she/he is doing something you dont like, wait till its all good then tell them. YOu have to be objective.

Somepeople just like to shout and insult each other and most times thats unnecesary. arguing is inevitable but when you do, keep it short and watch what you say. Its foolish to try and make them look dumb or try and look like you know every thing.

But like i said its different for everybody.

MONEY--NUFF SAID

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I can't remember the last time that my hubby and I argued. We don't agree on everything, but why argue about it. I tend to leave drink cups in the den and he'll say "Why don't you throw that away?" and I'll throw it away. Does that count? He came home tipsy one night. The next morning, before I went to work, I told him that he was scaring me because he was drinking and driving. He said, "Okay, I won't do it again. You know, I've got a pretty good marriage. So hang in there younguns. You'll get there. If you weather your storms, it will be worth it. Work it out. So those are the latest "fights."

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"Arguing is inevitable but when you do, keep it short and watch what you say. Its foolish to try and make them look dumb or try and look like you know every thing."

"But like i said its different for everybody."

Thank you I thought that t was like that. Since my last relationship I had to reorder my brain. Not everyone likes to argue and I'm happy with that I don't think that my brain can take anymore arguing with my ex.

Thank you I wish I had found someone like you then I wouldn't be so damn stressed out. I used to be such a happy easy going person . Not I'm like a stone (sometimes) .. I love men!!! Just not the nasty ones or the ignorant disrepectful ones.

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^^ we all have to learn at some point.

But i have seen some couples argue so much you wonder if the sleep next to each other at night lol.

me and my wife hardly ever argue, but when we do, we try to make sure it's over with before we go to sleep....try to follow that old sayin'.."never go to sleep angry"...and judgin' by our friends, the things we argue about are usually so small that we soon realize that it wasn't worth it... but we usually debate over the differences between men and women

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We use to argue mainly about Money, but also about dishes, dirty clothes, cutting hair in the bathroom and not getting it up and it be all on the sink..ewwww, the recipe to his gravy he wouldnt tell me, his drinking, not refilling the car, our views on the Bible, my hair he hated me wearing weave because my hair is already long, I just like doing it..lol, what I should eat when I was pregnant, me sleeping on his side of the bed, the tv, the remote, tissue--it was like his ssa ate up tissue..lol, the thermostat, man I could go on for days....

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Me and my husband argue mostly about issues around the house. For example I hate when he comes in from playing basketball with the boys and drops his gym bag and dirty sneakers on the living room floor instead of taking it to the laundry room or the bedroom and when he just tosses his coat over the couch instead of hanging it up(man that irks me!). Now my husband can't stand all of my junk mail and magazines and that they get untidy at times.  At times we can get pretty petty like arguing over who left the one dish in the sink or the cap off the toothpaste! Me and my hubby are very opnionated, so at times we just go back and forth, which is not good to do. In the end after we have calmed down, we tell each other what bothers us the most and try to be mindful of one anothers request. Marriage is not easy, it is a daily task that has to be worked at all times! adjusting is the hardest and it takes time because bottom line I know I do things that annoy him and visa versa and this is the first time that we have ever lived together and we have been together for 7 years and married for almost a year.Overall I really can't complain we have a good marriage, because we know how to fight and make up and thats really important!!

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 Passions03 wrote:We use to argue mainly about Money, but also about dishes, dirty clothes, cutting hair in the bathroom and not getting it up and it be all on the sink..ewwww, the recipe to his gravy he wouldnt tell me, his drinking, not refilling the car, our views on the Bible, my hair he hated me wearing weave because my hair is already long, I just like doing it..lol, what I should eat when I was pregnant, me sleeping on his side of the bed, the tv, the remote, tissue--it was like his ssa ate up tissue..lol, the thermostat, man I could go on for days....    Girl I hear you girl!!!!!  Me and my hubby have argued about the TV, remote, and me sleeping on his side of the bed when he is not in it, that gets on his nerves lol!

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@ babycakes....I know right. That got on my nerves too. I believe he would just pick arguements with me because he said I was cute when I got mad. That is soooo stupid!

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There are two ways to live life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.
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i am not married but me and my boyfriend argue about his eating habits. he eats alot and he is getting chunky i dont want a fat man so i be telling him to chill with all that eating and het gets very offended by that. we argue about him not managing his money corretly. we argue about him joking around when i am upset. we argue about him acting like he knows everyhing.we just enevr see eye to eye on anything.

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@ datclassybkchic...so if your man got to chunky, would you leave him? I have noticed that sometimes when you tell someone something like that then they tend to eat more. Maybe you should suggest that you 2 go working out together. Or when you cook, cook something healthy like chicken brest, steamed vegetables and brown rice. Or a grilled chicken salad. You know something like that. Kinda ease it on him so he want to offense to it.

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There are two ways to live life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.
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we dont live together or see each other that many times out the week for me to cook or moniter what he eats. i love him nomatter what his size but if he starts getting a gut and man boobs i will not be sexually attracted to that and i told him that. he cant be mad at me because i met him at a certain size and now he wanna let himself go and eat this that and the third. he has a big frame and he think he is a football player that can afford to eat all that but he is not athletic or that active to consume foods with such high calorie content. if ur in a relationship ur suppose to do ur best to look attractive for that person.i try to do my nails and my hair and eyebrows and by cute clothes and why cant he try to look good. i dont want a model but damn all i ask is to not get a gut and man boobs thats all i ask.

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