At my workplace, I've bumped into a lot of married people who are having afairs and flings like its nothing. They go out on dates and vacations with the other person like they arent even married. I have a friend who has been married for 15 years and I thought she had a picture perfect marriage. Well she found out last week that her perfect husband had been having an afair for almost a year with someone down the street. She didnt know the woman but had seen her around the way and the woman knows that they are married! The woman he cheated with isnt married. HEr and her husband had this big arguement and he wants to work it out but she is already putting a deposit down on an apartment. Its really messed up because they have been together for so long and there are kids involved. No one could have seen this coming. I mean does anyone respect marriage anymore? The woman knew they were married but slept and continued to sleep with this man! Waving at my friend in the street while banging her husband at night! Knowing he was married and had kids...I could really kick her *** for my friend...lol. Things like this makes me question why get married anyway if everything is going to end up a lie? I really hurt for her because she is all messed up right now!

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There are two ways to live life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.
-Albert Einstein

Hello,

I can relate to that I was with my husband from 77-2001 he was a very good father and provider.But when he started working in corrections,he met someone who worked there he started straying going to parties and finally started seeing her on regular basis.Come to find out she was on drugs he got hooked in a months time 24 yrs of marriage ended.And this chic lived arond the corner from my sister that's how I found out.When a man take his vows he is really lying and dont take marriage arrangement serious.I figure if you still wanna play dont get into a committed relationship.(THIS IS THE SHORT VERSION-LOL)

To my brothers:DONT WASTE TIME COLLECTING ROCKS WHEN YOU HAVE ADIAMOND IN YOUR POSSESSION!

LADY RAVEN

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Lady Raven

The sacredness of marriage and its implications are no longer respected within society.  There was a time period when women that involved themselves with married men were outcasted and treated terribly which forced them to respect that man's wife and her position.

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the morals of society have definetly faded and thats so sad. alot of men tend to start after a few years because they see a younger more attractive woman and that's not right. men could be grimey and women can be trifling.

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Attitudes are contagious , is yours worth catching?

Hey whats up Ladies and Gents,

I had to post on this one. I am married and this is my second marriage and I am only 23. The first time that I got married was for all the wrong reasons. I have never step out on her and I am not stepping out on my new wife. It is true that in Marriage you only get 80% of what you need. I agree with that. I am a man so occasionally when something catches my eye I may glance in that direction. (there is nothing wrong with admiring beautiful things.) I know that a man's word is his bond and that if a man can't keep his word he has nothing. Same thing goes for marriage vows. I can never see myself cheating do to the fact that I am to lazy for all that. It is to much sneaking around and lying and I am not good that at all. But I think that their are signs that may lead spouses to notice what is going on in the life of that spouse. I think the problem is that couples don't really take the time to pay close attention to each other. I watch everything that my wife does and if she does something out of the ordinary it sends up red flags for me. Then I start to question things and if she pops off then I know she is doing something that she has no business. But then I take care of that. People need to pay attention to each other and they will definety be warned. Ps. Marriage is what you make it. It is not easy and people don't respect marriage but you have to make them.

@ Lovemy_Bet...I am really sorry to hear about your last marriage. That had to be hard for you. Spending all those years together only to find out that it your husband could be so easily persuaded by a tramp of a co-worker! Your a better woman than me, because I sometimes have temper issues and I would definitely have to stomp a hole in both of them!

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There are two ways to live life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.
-Albert Einstein

@ datclassybkchic....Its sad that men would let some pretty young thing that they've only known for a month come in a destroy something that they have established and invested time into for years! But my friend, I think, is quite an attractive woman. She keeps herself up rather nicely. Me and her go to the gym together, go get our hair and nails done so I know she really works hard to maintain her appearance. It really rubs me the wrong way when a man doesnt realize or appreciate the effort his girl or wife is putting into how she looks for him! And I also know some girls who say their men start to trip when they get all dressed up...why is that?

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There are two ways to live life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.
-Albert Einstein

@ blackman357...Sorry gotta make all these seperate because my quote thingy isnt working right...lol but...I believe there is nothing wrong with looking...as long as your not touching! Now when you act on those thoughts in your mind, thats when we have a problem! And your right, it is to much work to cheat. I understand also that some marriages are at that rocky point when couples have problems like this, but why be so weak? Your still married! Just because your going through a hard time does not mean its time to cheat! I hear people say...oh we're seperated...but your still married! Gee*73* But what about the people that cheat when the marriage couldnt be better. Your wife is beautiful, you have beautiful kids, you come home to a warm dinner every night, the sex life is bangin...but you still have to creep outside of the marriage? Im sorry guys but this really ticks me off. If your not strong enough to respect your own marriage and keep it in your pants then why get married at all?

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There are two ways to live life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.
-Albert Einstein

some guys just get comfortable and they get used to their wife or girlfriend. its just like if u get a benz coop u gonna be happy but after a few years u aint gonna be so hyped over it. thats how men are i know someone that is very beautiful she always do her nails and toes and she have a nice figure and her man still acts up on her sometimes it has nothing to do with the woman ur friend shouldnt feel like it was her lack of anything her husband is just a dog.

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Attitudes are contagious , is yours worth catching?

I just wish marriage was like it was in the old days. My grandparents were devoted to one another and never stepped out of line with one another. Practically joined at the hip for 50+ years until my Grandfather passed away in 1997. If I do get married, I want my marriage to be like that. Really taking that 'Til Death do us part' thing to heart!

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There are two ways to live life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.
-Albert Einstein