you know what i hate more than anything is a cheap man and someone who is not genuine in the things that they do. ladies have u ever been with a man that counts up everything he does for you and everything that you do for him? making it seem as if he only do things to get something in return instead of genuinely doing something out the kindness of his heart. i really hate tally givers people that keep track of what they do for u and what u do for them. Another thing that tally giver's are known for is during arguments bringing up things that they have done for u. just because u did this or that, that dont mean i have to kiss ur *** and make u walk all over me. why is it that alot of men feel like if they do something for u (that they should do for u as your man)that give them a reason to walk all over u . for instance my bf took me to the beyonce concert and sometimes he used to take me out alot but that was in the begining. now when ever we have arguments he throw it in my face mind u the beyonce concert was last summer so why is he still talking abou it. this frustrates me can anyone relate to people like this.

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well i dealt wit a chick that tallied up everything i did for her...so i started keeping my own lil tally of the schitt i did....so its not only the men that keep a tally..some women keep a tally too..but the fckud up part was she was keeping a tally on the things i did for her,not what she did for me...

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I tally because women do it too the only time I will bring it up is if she do first. Women tally up and hold grudges what a combination.

i feel what yall are saying but i feel like if ur in a relationship yall should do things genuinely because u care and u want to make that person smile and u want to look out for that person. why do things for recognization that seems selfish. and also u dont have to remind people want you've done cause i am sure that person remember. but alot of guys feel like if they took u to dinner and later in the week if they want some *** or if they want something and u use ur free right to say no. they get upset because they feel "entitled" to whatever they want cause they took u to dinner. thats not cool. its like that song "u owe me" fron nas and ginwine remember that song lol. just cause u do certain things that dont mean u can walk on a sister. real love dont tally give in my oppinion.

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Real love don't... to an extent. What I mean by that is, that a man can do all these nice things for a women and multiple times, she shoots him down, that's when the big argument happen, oh the cards will be drawn out. When your angry u start throwing out everything that u done for that person cause its seems as if they didn't appreciate it. "Oh I done this, I've done that and this is how u repay me?!" that's just an example. He start feeling like hes being played the fool. But if a man goes off and start tallying everything hes done for u when u say no to something he requested for the first time. That should let u know hes not the one and hes looking for something else that didn't include luv.

I dont tally up but I do remember. Im a very loving, kind, and giving person but some men take that as a weakness and that is not the case. Im the kind of girl that stands by her man and supports him in everything he does. But if I have been there by you and helped you whenever asked, supported you in all your decisions and then when I need you, you *73* on me, then yes we have a problem! I dont throw anything in his face because its old news but It would be very hard for me to do anything else for that man ever again!

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There are two ways to live life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.
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Thankfully, I have never been involved with a man that maintains a record of everything he has provided me with and uses it as leverage when we are in disagreement.  That would irritate me to no end and he and I would be constantly debating.

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i feel u its a turn off for me too and yeah girl where do u meet ur men at? let me know so i can go there lol. i read some of ur post and u seem like one of the few lucky women that get the good ones. girl i aint mad at ya do what u do.

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^^LOL! I appreciate the compliment, but I have one man that I have been involved with for nearly two nears and he is a Southern gentlemen!  We have had our share of problems, but he is a great man.  Choose a Southern man..LOL!

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