By living in an unwed relationship,are you getting all the benefits of a marriage,and shying away from the responsibily of a marriage couple? Do you have in your mind,that you can leave the relationship because you are not married?

This should be in the dating forum. I am interested in what the responses will be.

Only fools rush into marriage.

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 organicone wrote: Do you have in your mind,that you can leave the relationship because you are not married?

No......they just have it in their minds that they can cheat since they aren't married. They will stay in a comfortable situation as long as it is allowed by the other party. So they'll date one broad and be 75% happy, then cheat with another broad for the other 25% happiness, with no intentions of marrying either because neither woman demands to be considered as wife material. And in between the cheating and drama, the babies keep coming.

That's some repugnant schitt.

 

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I just dont see the reason in shacking.....Are you living with someone because you love them or because you need someone to split the bills with? If you are dating someone thats cool...you do your thang..I do mine! You have your place I and I will have mine! If you get to the point that you can not be without this person on a daily basis and you constantly needs this person around..I think that is the point where you need reevaluate your relationship. At that point you need to decide if this is a person who you want to marry. If it is.....set a date and get married! If you are only at the point that you want to shack with this person..I think there is not enough love there to live with them either!

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^^I completly agree Dre. Except i think two individuals should shack up for a while just to get a taste of: if they really want to make a life long committment to each other. I feel that you dont really know a person until you have lived with them.

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I disagree. I think that you are putting the cart before the horse in this situation. Shack is like playing house. My boy has been shaking with this girl for like three years now. They act like they are married. They have kid together and everything. I mean why place a childish game when you are not children anymore? Marriage gives stability and not just that but it also is a way to make sure that your family is taking care of. To me it makes plenty of sense to be married because little do people know but after a while it becomes common law marriage anyway. That person is still entitled to half of all your assests anyway. So doesn't make sense to do it the right way and secure future for your youngins.

Does shacking degrade the marriage bed? Does shackers respect each other?

I'm very old-fashioned. (Not only that, I'm old!) When my daughter called us and announced that she and her long-time boyfriend had just "closed on a house," I thought "What are you doing? You're asking for troule." About three months later, they announced their engagement and married a couple of months after that. She said that she knew she was doing everything backwards. But they seem to be happy. They have a wonderful life together. So who and I to judge. Different strokes for different folks.

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I thought this was funny... Last year of October, me and my boyfriend were celebrating his birthday. We went out to eat. We were conversating. Well out of nowhere, he asked me, "When are we going to live together?" I choked on my food a little bit. But he was talking about later in the future, and I do not know when that is because next year I will be transferring from a college, off to a University. And if I go to the one that is about 45 to hour away from him; there is no way we would live together. We have deep feelings for each other, and etc, but I do not think my family would approve of it. And of course my education is first and he knows it.

^^^^^^Girl, go get that degree and if he really has "deep feelings" for you then he'll marry you. Be smart.