Published in the May 13, 1955 issue of Housekeeping Monthly.

• * Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready, on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal (especially his favorite dish) is part of the warm welcome needed.

• * Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.

• * Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.

• * Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives.

• * Gather up schoolbooks, toys, paper, etc. and then run a dust cloth over the tables.

• * Over the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering for his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.

• * Prepare the children. Take a few minutes to wash the children hands and faces (if they are small), comb their hair and, if necessary, change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part. Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet.

• * Be happy to see him.

• * Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him.

• * Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first - remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.

• * Make the evening his. Never complain if he comes home late or goes out to dinner, or other places of entertainment without you. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure and his very real need to be at home and relax.

• * Your goal: Try to make sure your home is a place of peace, order, and tranquility where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit.

• * Don't greet him with complaints or problems.

• * Don't complain if he's late home for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through that day.

• * Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or have him lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.

• * Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.

• * Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him.

• * A good wife always knows her place.

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PRAYER IS LIKE GAS IN OUR TANKS...WITHOUT ACTION ON OUR PART THE CAR DOES NOT MOVE!!!

DON'T TAKE LIFE SO SERIOUSLY..YOU WON'T GET OUT OF IT ALIVE

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 betomb wrote:

Is there a 1955 Guide to being a good husband?

I don't know but I hope so. Men had responsibilites too!!

Love the part about taking off his shoes....

2008 equivalent:  Brotha, what is wrong with your hands?

LOL!!!!

I  never married. With those rules.... it's either single or life in prison for murder.

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PRAYER IS LIKE GAS IN OUR TANKS...WITHOUT ACTION ON OUR PART THE CAR DOES NOT MOVE!!!

DON'T TAKE LIFE SO SERIOUSLY..YOU WON'T GET OUT OF IT ALIVE

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I would almost entertain this bullcrap if there was ONE black man out there worthy of this kind of treatment....

 

Getting treatment like this is a PRIVILEDGE, NOT A RIGHT!!!!

 

 

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 staticspark1947 wrote:

LOL!!!!

I  never married. With those rules.... it's either single or life in prison for murder.

 

lmbo!!!!!

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OMG! This is an excellent post!

 

I have to go to work, but Insh'Allah (God WIilling) I will add to this later. mssexycaramel said it isnt too many brothers worth all of this. LOL! That is true, but when your Prince Charming arrives, you have to be ready and know what to do. She made some good points. All the people I know who teach How To Build A Successful Marriage classes, say the exact same things that are in this article.

 

I think us as women are willing to please, but like caramel said, it just isnt many men out there deserving of this kind of love & admiration. I personally am around men who deserve that love. It's all about what circle you are in.

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Don't complain if he's late home for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through that day           I think us as women are willing to please, but like caramel said, it just isnt many men out there deserving of this kind of love & admiration. I personally am around men who deserve that love. It's all about what circle you are in.                           Now  True;You mean to tell me that there are such men who deserve the kind of love that they should not hear complaints..even if they stay out all night? I can excuse this onlyif they have a night job. What other reason ,except injury, sickness or DEATH is it for them to stay out all night?LOL!!!.

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PRAYER IS LIKE GAS IN OUR TANKS...WITHOUT ACTION ON OUR PART THE CAR DOES NOT MOVE!!!

DON'T TAKE LIFE SO SERIOUSLY..YOU WON'T GET OUT OF IT ALIVE

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2008 GOOD HOUSE WIFE:

• Pick up  kids up from daycare

• Swing by McDonalds for dinner

• Rush home

• Get children to complete their homework

• Throw in laundry

• Make lunches for the next day

• Call husbands cell phone "where the **** are you?"

• Take kids outside to play a while

• Make husband give kids a bath while you check your email

• Wash dishes while husband rinses

• Put children to bed.

• Throw yourself into bed.

• Get up and go to work the next day.

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Swing by McDonalds for dinner

 

 

???

 

I cook enough to last at least 2 days so we dont have to deal with fast food. Making a home cooked meal keep my big fella's healthy and strong. In todays high pressure work force it does make it difficult to do that everyday though.

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Lead your life by example. That is the only way you can honestly be respected.

What other reason ,except injury, sickness or DEATH is it for them to stay out all night?LOL!!! .

 

There is no other excuse!!

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Lead your life by example. That is the only way you can honestly be respected.

Though time has progressed and women have evolved from dependant housewives into independant, career-oriented and CEO driven power suits, many of these principles remain vital pieces of a successful relationship/marriage.  There are numerous instances when my ex-boyfriend would arrive home and I would have already settled the children, prepared a fresh meal specifically for him, calmed the house, ran a steaming bath for him and have the lotions and oils ready to massage him once he had finished in the bathroom.  Yes, I would remove all of his clothing, shoes included and place his clothing in the hamper and his shoes on the shelf.  He thoroughly appreciated it and he would pamper me on occasion as well.  Relationships require catering and pampering at times.  I don't find the issue in this.  However, these is no excuse for a man to remain out all evening and our home of tranquility will be demolished if he feels that he must not explain his whereabouts when he arrives home the next morning.

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There are no elevators to success. Every one must take the stairs.

Keep in mind that this was written in 1955. The audience was primarily women whose sole responsibility was the home and family.

I have a career but my priority is my family. I look forward to catering to my husband, cooking, cleaning, taking off his shoes...all of that. That is in my nature.

 

I agree with Bonnie though, there will be hell to pay should he decide to stay out all night.

I bet there wasn't a good husband guide........SMH...........See I wouldn't mind doing those things if I met the man of my dreams and felt he was truly worthy of that treatment. But dudes nowadays? I don't know.......I mean it would have to take one hell of a man to get me to doin' all that and be happy with it, and I ain't met that man yet......

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I don't think this article was written for the working woman. Any guy who expects all this from a working woman is stupid and should die from incompetence. Now...That article was written for the stay home woman. In 2008 a woman who stays home would STILL have a problem doing that stuff. Why? I don't know, but yes some women are that stupid. Also for the ladies who say "oh no. he aint stayin out all night". I realized something. The woman in the article probably don't have what you have. Insecurity. Back then the women were so secure with themselves and their relationship that when the man would stay out all night, the first thought is that he's with his boys having a drink. In 2008, the first thought is about how he's cheating and ya get crazy! Its a shame how a man can't even have some drinks anymore. Just a hint, insecurity (we all have minor ones), especially extreme insecurity could be why we all break up all the time. Keep that under control and you may be closer to a better relationship. btw, it goes both ways about deserving or being "worthy". I HIGHLY doubt the ladies on here are deserving of good treatment in return. I'll say it simply... get off your high horse!

 BagThat wrote:I don't think this article was written for the working woman. Any guy who expects all this from a working woman is stupid and should die from incompetence. Now...That article was written for the stay home woman. In 2008 a woman who stays home would STILL have a problem doing that stuff. Why? I don't know, but yes some women are that stupid. Also for the ladies who say "oh no. he aint stayin out all night". I realized something. The woman in the article probably don't have what you have. Insecurity. Back then the women were so secure with themselves and their relationship that when the man would stay out all night, the first thought is that he's with his boys having a drink. In 2008, the first thought is about how he's cheating and ya get crazy! Its a shame how a man can't even have some drinks anymore. Just a hint, insecurity (we all have minor ones), especially extreme insecurity could be why we all break up all the time. Keep that under control and you may be closer to a better relationship. btw, it goes both ways about deserving or being "worthy". I HIGHLY doubt the ladies on here are deserving of good treatment in return. I'll say it simply... get off your high horse!

 

It's not about insecurity, it's about respect. No self respecting man is going to stay out all night and if he doesn't respect himself then he won't respect me or our vows.

My fiance is an NCO in the armed forces, he's also a minister so I am aware that things may happen and it might be required for him to stay out late. I am also aware that this is 2008 and modern technology has made it so that he always has a way to contact me to let me know ahead of time should such an event occur.

Again, it's about respect and not insecurity.

Women in 1955 did not have financial security so had no other option but to turn her head in the face of her husbands disrespect, if she spoke up she took the risk of being a single parent without an income or career prospects.