What are you talkin bout Un3??

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After a night of succulent passion, I'll have you singin and hummin "crown royal on ice"...on the j.o.b.

A little spoken word by yours truly

I am waiting until marriage for a ton of reasons. Number one should be my faith, but to be honest that isn't the first thing that comes to mind. Number one is I'm crazy. I mean I am emotional, sensitive and very protective and sex is more than bring physical. It's a soul tie. Sex is really created to be the physically manifestation of God's love for you. That is why you should be married. (Your husband should love you like, Christ loves the church) I've seen sex make people do crazy things, and no matter what a woman says we can not separate sex and intimacy. I can't deal with having my feelings hurt. Plus, when I have sex I what to be totally free so I need to know he loves me for more than my body. I don't want to be one of those women who hide behind under the covers and in the dark no, I'm gonna be like superwoman. In addition I have a room mate and I don't wanna be in my room screamin and her listening. The person who I feel that comfortable with has to be my soulmate or help mate. Plus, I want to give my husband a gift no one else has ever had.

 pinkflame143 wrote:I am waiting until marriage for a ton of reasons. Number one should be my faith, but to be honest that isn't the first thing that comes to mind. Number one is I'm crazy. I mean I am emotional, sensitive and very protective and sex is more than bring physical. It's a soul tie. Sex is really created to be the physically manifestation of God's love for you. That is why you should be married. (Your husband should love you like, Christ loves the church) I've seen sex make people do crazy things, and no matter what a woman says we can not separate sex and intimacy. I can't deal with having my feelings hurt. Plus, when I have sex I what to be totally free so I need to know he loves me for more than my body. I don't want to be one of those women who hide behind under the covers and in the dark no, I'm gonna be like superwoman. In addition I have a room mate and I don't wanna be in my room screamin and her listening. The person who I feel that comfortable with has to be my soulmate or help mate. Plus, I want to give my husband a gift no one else has ever had.

 

You probably need to straighten that out before thinking about DATING someone!!!

 

crazy LOL

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After a night of succulent passion, I'll have you singin and hummin "crown royal on ice"...on the j.o.b.

A little spoken word by yours truly

I agree with Mssexy. But i would like to add that i'm not even sure i want to get married and if i did i would have to test out the good--wouldn't want to be stuck with a bad lay forever. lol.

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Will someone clear all the "c/o/o/c/h/i/e cobwebs" from around here please....lol.

 rmandy wrote:What are you talkin bout Un3??

 

Opps. That was a type o, but what I was trying to say is, I did those things for a man and he played me. Left me heart broken. Im over that now, and NO im not bitter. So that's why I decided to wait until I am married to have sex. Plus I seen a few pictures of STD's that scared the hell out of me so that helped too.

Ain't nothing wrong with doing "those thangs"...just learn how to recognize the right man to do those things for....who will appreciate a female taking care of business...

 

The average n.igga ain't out here to *8* you over, but it seems like a lot of sistas skip right past the n.igga with his head on right and choose up on the dumb n.iggaz runnin around with a pacifier in his mouth....you got to upgrade your standards.

 

But of course you got to have your sh*t together yourself, especially physically, because a real n.igga isn't going to pay you no mind....

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After a night of succulent passion, I'll have you singin and hummin "crown royal on ice"...on the j.o.b.

A little spoken word by yours truly

I have no issue with waiting. I am waiting as well. I know God will send me the right man when that time comes. Besides I am only 20 years old, school is my main focus right now.

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AIN'T NOTHING WRONG WITH DOING "THOSE THANGS"...JUST LEARN HOW TO RECOGNIZE THE RIGHT MAN TO DO THOSE THINGS FOR....WHO WILL APPRECIATE A FEMALE TAKING CARE OF BUSINESS... THE AVERAGE N.IGGA AIN'T OUT HERE TO *8* YOU OVER, BUT IT SEEMS LIKE A LOT OF SISTAS SKIP RIGHT PAST THE N.IGGA WITH HIS HEAD ON RIGHT AND CHOOSE UP ON THE DUMB N.IGGAZ RUNNIN AROUND WITH A PACIFIER IN HIS MOUTH....YOU GOT TO UPGRADE YOUR STANDARDS. BUT OF COURSE YOU GOT TO HAVE YOUR SH*T TOGETHER YOURSELF, ESPECIALLY PHYSICALLY, BECAUSE A REAL N.IGGA ISN'T GOING TO PAY YOU NO MIND.... ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------I Agree.

 mssexycarmel wrote:I'm going to keep it real. I'm not waiting until I get married to have sex. What I will do is wait until I've reached a certain level of intimacy (not referring to sex) and trust before we take that step. I think sex isn't to be taken lightly. Its not about manipulation or keeping control, its about protecting my feelings and building a solid relationship. If a man really cares about me, he'll wait to share that with me. Nothing easy is worth having anyway, and good men who are ready for real relationships already know that.

 

I totally agree mscarmel. It sounds good to say "I'll wait until I'm married" especially to one's parents and most of us were raised believing that to be the thing to do. But finding a mate/husband who you might think is worthy of marriage is more difficult than uttering those words. Once a person has some experince on the dating seen and thier share of bullshiit and heartbreaks, they will realize "waiting until I'm married" was just a fad that sounded good at the time.

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I have tried and failed to wait. I will be alright.

LOL of course you guys know I aint waiting...I have a son. But the whole decision to wait or not totally depends on the person. I like to wait until I get to know that person and feelings are mutual between us before I go to the next level....and as for trust, now a days its hard to trust anyone! You will be lucky just to find someone you can think would be faithful. Never let your gaurd down.

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There are two ways to live life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.
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 brightnbeauty wrote:I agree with Mssexy. But i would like to add that i'm not even sure i want to get married and if i did i would have to test out the good--wouldn't want to be stuck with a bad lay forever. lol.

 

I agree, a lot of women need to face the facts that marriage isn't for them (in this lifetime)....They have too many unresolved issues that makes them unsuitable to be anyones wife...it will take the next 70 years of psychiatric counseling to get a breakthrough and see the light.

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After a night of succulent passion, I'll have you singin and hummin "crown royal on ice"...on the j.o.b.

A little spoken word by yours truly

I'M WAITING.......It's not because of religion, because Im not a religious person. The reson why I am waiting should be obvious.....STDs, UNWANTED PREGNANCY.....I have a beautiful life and I wouldnt want to mess it up with stupid decisions. If I wait until I am married I wont have to worry about the things I have to worry about now, while I am single. I know girls back in high school who messed up and now they are still stuck at home with only a high school education or maybe not even that and they cant do anything about it cause they have a kid to care for. Now I look at my life and I am a freshmen in college and living my life the way I want to with out anything holding me back, and thats the way I want to keep it. I also know that black dudes are way to sexual to WAIT.....and sooo they try to put pressure on you and then when you dont budge they move on to the next girl.........its not worth it, just to have sex with some guy and then as soon as something happens(ex. Pregnancy) he is gone, he dosnt want to have anything to do with it. when I give myself to a man I want to know that he is responsable, trust worhty, and that he cares about me and respects me enough for me to know that I dont have to worry about all the issues that come with sex......I want to be able to feel like he has my back 100%.

i posted a topic similar to this and was wondering the same thing. if a guy will be faithful.....there has been guys that have downed my decision to wait and tried to make it seem that it was so unrealistic in this time frame that i actually started second guessing myself and thinking was i being too unreasonable? i'm waiting/being celibate for many reasons including my faith, haing a baby out of wedlock, STDs and emotional security. i think that a person doesn't have to and can live without having sex b4 marriage if they love and care about eachother. and there are ways to probably find out if they can satisfy you without going all the way to that extent. and of course there are ways to satisfy eachother in the meantime and in between time lol. people are letting society dictate their lives and their sexual lifestyle. the things that they hear and see around them are becoming the main focus and has become "ok", not just having sex before marriage but having casual/no strings attached sex is being justified by people's urges and lust to be pleased so they don't look at the underlying issues and the future they just look at that moment. i'm looking at the future and even beyond that.

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