Baby Mama does NOT equal wifey status. people seem to really get this confused. A man can forget to put on a condum or slip up that does not mean he wants to build a life with you. you cannot force a man to be committed by having his baby. You just cant!!!

Being a baby momma does not equal wifey status.  Thats all you are is a baby mama unless you decide to become wifey. I am a baby mama,   I never called myself his wifey.  I am also in college and doing for me and mine. Getting pregnant with a mans baby because your jealous of his child and baby mama is stupid. Lots of young girls in my hood get pregnant because they trying to keep the boy. But in the end it never works out how  they want it to. But what is even sadder is that some womens girls and womens mama teach them to get pregnant by a man so he will stay with them.

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Don't play yourself short!

Many young people got duped into the baby momma syndrom. It was the ThING in the day(sad day). I am happy to hear that this generation is wiser.(I hope).

Bump Up !!!!!

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You See, It's all about Family!

A baby mama is just somebody who got pregnant. She could be in a relationship with the dude or a one nite stand, but in the end, she's only the baby mama.

Wifey is a term used for a chick a man is in a relationship with but has no intentions of marrying her. She's cool for RIGHT NOW. They may even act like a married couple, or say they are married, live together, etc, but in the end, he gave her this title to keep her from nagging him about marrying her and being cool with staying the long term girlfriend with no ring.

Wife--Has his last name, is part of his family by marriage, when he dies, she calls the shots and controls his estate automatically. Their credit becomes one, she doesn't have to testify against her hubby in the court of law, able to handle his legal business in case of emergency, the hospitals will only deal with family(wife) most of the time, automatically beneficiary of his life insurance. If they divorce, she's entitled to not only child support but spousal support or alimony. Last but not least, he took the time to commit to this woman over all the other women out there and is ready to give up his freedom to be with HER.

Which one do you want to be? Wise up ladies........

 

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@missexycarmel

I think you layed it out very clearly!!!!

I USED TO THINK IT WAS THE YOUNG GIRLS DOIN THAT DUMB *73*. BUT RECENTLY IO CAME ACROSS THIS GIRL THAT HAD 4 KIDS BY THIS ONE GUY WHILE PREGNANT WITH THE LAST ONE WAS CHEATIN ON HER WITH ANOTHER GIRL AND GOT HER PREGNANT, 2 BOYS BORN ONE IN SPRING THE LAST IN WINTER. WHILE HE SAYIN IT AINT HIS BABY COME OUT LOOKIN LIKE DUDES EXACT TWIN. BABYMOMS FIGHTIN OVER THIS CHEATIN *** DUDE WIT NO JOB NO HUSTLE NOTHIN. ONE IS ALMOST 30 ONE IS LIKE 20.NOW HE CHEATIN ON BOTH OF EM WITH SEVERAL OTHERS

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WESTCOAST LIVIN

Having a child with a man doesn't cement anything, it doesn't solidfy the relationship or place that woman into the "wifey" position.  Men have children with women they could give half a s^#t about on a regular basis, so we need to be cautious and be in control of our bodies and who we allow to enter it.  At 18, I couldn't imagine becoming a biological mother and raising a child from birth, I'd rather wait until I'm older and capable of providing everything for that child.

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 VanityReloaded wrote:

 

Im in my early 20’s, still in college and it seems like all my peers are getting pregnant….Pregnancy seem to equate to wifey status to many females. Especially when I go back home in the hood and 17, 18 and 19 year old couples are planning pregnancies and sporting their new babies like a wedding ring.

 

Even worse a close friend of mine got pregnant for her current boyfriend because she was so jealous of his baby momma and their child. WTF?

 

Thats because these young girls and sometimes even women really think that when they have someones baby it means something.  NO! it means nothing and they'll figure that out when they're left alone while he moves on with the next girl with no kids.  Honey, stay away from all those so called friends of yours who think this way.  It will only be a matter of time before their ignorance will rub off on you.

The statistics are not encouraging, despite all the obvious opportunites , this "early baby mama"route is the choice of the majority of blacks in comparison to their percentage in the populations of western white nations . Basically ,the Traditional african family structure ,where the MAN is the Head of the Household. The family is made up of nuclear and extended not to mention what we will call "Elders" who all come together to support the family when difficult decisions are being made is non existant

Hence the saying..Mama's baby,poppas maybe

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It is what it is...

I am twenty years old; I am also in college going for my bachelors. My major is Journalism. I do not live in the hood, but where I live, I have also notice the girls I graduated with back in 2006, all have babies or they are pregnant. I am dating this guy who has a baby mama. She is doing nothing with her life and she is a hot mess! I am twenty and she is twenty-two I think. We have sex, but we ALWAYS use a condom. I speak up, and I make wise decisions (not saying I am perfect). As far as baby mama is wifey status? HECK NO! I would rather have a ring on my hand than have to be a single mother. My cousin is twenty-eight, and she is a single mother, BUT she has a career. She makes good money. She went to college, graduated, but just recently (last year), had a baby.

True but I have to say I was one of the stupid ones, I got married thinking that it benefits my child. My parents got on my case constantly about how I'm ruining my childs life if I don't get married to my childs father. We got married and from day one I feel like we put a curse on ourselves. If true love is not there your marriage will not succeed. After two short years I'm already up for divorce. I feel so ashamed but I learned my lesson and I wouldn't advise anyone to get married or have children for anything other than love....