I can't speak for everyone else but I don't feel like I am judging because I was just pointing out the fact that there is another option. You may have not even been referring to me but I was just wanting to elaborate on what I was saying. It's true I don't take care of her or pay her bills but here's a thought...if you know that you don't want a child or any more children, wouldn't you do what it took to keep it from happening? So many people find themselves in that situation and some, not all, then want to look for someone to feel sorry for them...well that's kind of hard to do when you didn't do what you needed to do to prevent the situation and by you, I mean a person in general. I just wanted to let it be known where I was coming from and I do understand part of what you were saying.

The show was so real how could you not identify with similar situations. I think Keyshia should not give up on finding her dad cause i can tell she really want to know him. I don't believe in abortion but at the end of the day it is Neffe's decision and if God forgives 7times70 to infinity who are any of us to judge? I have a brother name LaZarius Zirker and I have been looking for him if anyone knows him please reply our dad passed away last year and I don't think he knows he has a sister. FAMILY is LOVE!

To add to my first message if you have family be family. I have been thinking of my lost brother since i heard I was a child his first name may not be right but his last name is Zirker and he was born in Nashville,Tn the last i know he was suppose to be in Michigan. I am graduating from a University this weekend and I would love as my present to at least hear from my brother.

Pain, stress and sorrow are what everyone deals with in life. Truly I don't think that Neffe should terminate the pregnancy because you never know how special that child may be. I pray and hope that Neffe have a changed mind and heart. True, that no one else has to go through it but you. But why? When you are a caring parent you just can not let that sit. Regardless if the baby is not her husband, why are you going to take some one else life who didn’t ask to be here? If your husband wanted to be there with you, he would accept the child regardless if it’s his or not and pick up the pieces and live on because if I was in your situation, I would tell him that I don’t need him in my life. Don't terminate just because of one mistake. The purpose of mistake is to make them and learn from it, but not keep making the same mistake over and over again. Look at your mother, clean and still trying. Let that be a light that shines on you and you be the life to shine on your kids. Don't terminate and then regret it later.

I truly enjoy Keyshia Cole's music and the show, but I was not at all happy with Frankie's behavior on the way to the reunion or at the park. She was drinking before they even got started good. I understand that there are a lot of things that the family has to work out, but it seems like she would have been sober so that she can enjoy herself with her children. Her daughter that has just found her made the statement that Frankie told her that it would be different when she got out of prison, but it doesn't seem that way. She got out of prison and started enjoying the fast life and Keyshia's money. My solution to the problem is for Frankie to get all of her children together so that they will no each other and begin to heal and grow as a family. It is important to know who your family is, and the only way for these children to know is for Frankie to grow up and tell them who is who. She seems to get mad at the people who raised her children while she was out there living her life on the streets and in prison. She should be grateful for their help. Anger is very big in this family.

I think Keyshia should continue to look for her biological daddy so she will know where she came from and her heritage, and she already know her mama is. It seems like she already has a mother and a father who love her dearly.

Neffie may know that she will not truly love this child like she does her other children. We never know what exactly is going through her mind. She may one day look at this child and blame it for her and her husband not been able to get back together. She could just decide to not feed the child or beat the child to death. It's more than her just deciding if she can financially take care of the child. What her mental state will not allow. If she hurts the child then people will be saying she shouldn't have had the baby.

We all know that her husband has done his dirt, but he didn't make a child to go along with it. I do not agree with him being with her cousin. That is just dirty. If he does decide to get back with her he will not accept that child, and he would never treat it like it was his own. Neffie doesn't want to be like her mother. There are two K's: keep it or kill it! Neffie and only Neffie will choose.

Much Love

 

i understand wut neffie is goin thru she has the rite to say wether or not she wants to keep her babi

Well to be honest I kinda madd dat neffe is going to terminatedher baby too..I truly cried when she did dat bec. frankie was right about wat she said.Frankie had 7 kids and didnt give any of them up so neither should've neffe but the 14 is in two days hopefully she think about...But over all they all came together and had a good time at the family reunion even though there was a lil conflict going on at the beginning they made it through and had themselves a good time....!!!!

i think neffe should keep the baby because all the drama that is in her family  i think the baby will bring some joy into her life.............. i think the cole family was just angry because of what keyshia mother did too them but life still goes on forget what had happen and live to the fact that frankie is clean and living heathly............... god bless

My goodness I don't know which one is worse Neffe or Frankie!!! I was embarrased when they were at the resturant, and I wasn't even there. One minute Neffe is yelling at her mom and then the next Neffe is taking up for her crazyness!!! Neffe started the whole resturant argument because she was making a big deal that her brother was sitting ACROSS from her and her fam, my goodness, she was acting like the boy was sitting at a diffenent table and it was totally harmless. Mr. and Mrs Cole seem like a nice couple and they seemed so disgusted by Frankie's behavior.    Frankie is a hot mess, she needs to put the drinking down especailly since she use to be an addict because one day she might fall back into needing more when the drinking doesn't do the trick, former addict have to be very careful with that! She was acting like a fool from the time she got on the party bus to the time they got to the resturant!!!! I felt bad for the son and daughter they didn't really know her and that was their first impression of their mom. She was harassing her grandson and chasing her son around the table like a fool!!!Frankie needs to understand that she was not a mother to those kids when they were growing up and stop trying to lay down the law now, when she was missing for so many years. She needs to just start slow and take it one day at a time with them, build a friendship and relationship and work from there and above all...... PUT THE BOTTLE DOWN!!!! I pray the fam gets it together!! The 2nd season of Keyshia's show was all about her family, Keyshia seemed to be the most calm and normal.

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It's Mrs M to you! 5/5/07!!!!

Hi and blessings be upon you and yours!

Kyeshia you have a huge responsibility on your shoulders, God does not make mistakes in his choices, you are qualified and capable. I notice how your emotions seem to turn to turmoil when you discuss being adopted. Your tears of frustration and hurt would've been mute if your mother would have aborted you, this is to say that your sisters unborn child will never have voice to speak. GOD does not make mistakes. I have struggled since the age of (14) with being a young mother, being homeless, rape, I did not think I would live to be (16). Each year passed and I learned and I grew. I had my first at (14) and my last at the age of (21)= 5, beautiful boys. Neffe never give up, to your mother, I understand her hurt, when she placed her kids with a family for temporary custody and they were taken. I picked up the phone to have an abortion with my last son, and the lady that answered the phone told me I had dialed the wrong number, and that she could helped to save my son. God had other plans. To speed my story up, now, (2) of my boys live with me and my other (3) I see every weekend, I am striving to create creditability that will stand, so I have a AA degree in paralegal studies and I am currently working on my B.A. degree in Business. I can understand, not empathize, but understand all of your emotions. All of you have been chosen to deliver a message to single black mothers through out the land. The key is to know yourselves, I mean your original self. I attended church, prayed hard, changed my life, and still I did not know me. You can not know where you are going, unless you know were you came from. Your struggles only make you stronger.

I pray Keyshia understands and is fully aware of the depth of influence she has over her family. Her role as a sister/daughter/auntie/friend is so crucial to this families infrastructure and is the "glue" holding them all together right now. I mean that's some SUPER GLUE right there! LOL!

For her to have been raised by a foster family and then the streets, struggled and hustled to make her music career happen, understand the crazy music business and not be afraid to speak her mind and protect her investment (which is herself!) and then go home everyday and serve as a mentor to her sister, mother and nieces......THIS GIRL IS AWESOME!

And she's so young. There are so many stupid, crazy, irresponsible things she could be doing but she consciously chose to step up to the plate and be the one to bring her family back together, to live a celibate lifestyle in front of her nieces to set an example for them and show them NO MAN will ever love and respect you more than you love and respect yourself. That is huge!! Those young girls are blessed beyond measure to have Keyshia in their lives.

I believe Frankie and Neffe are on the right track and are on their way to healing and forgiving each other and themselves. Frankie has years of pain to work through and I'm sure there are things that happened to her that she will never be able to share with anyone, let alone Keyshia and Neffe or any of her other children but she is trying so hard to get better.

Neffe will make the right decision FOR HER about her baby. Its not up to us to judge her and spout off what we would do if it were us because guess what?? IT AIN'T US! We only see a snapshot of Neffe's life every week but her real life ain't no television show. All we can do is pray for her and send our love her way.

In conclusion I want Keyshia and her family to know they tricked me! They bamboozled me! LOL! When I saw the previews of her show and saw how loud and crazy they were acting I thought, I am not about to waste 30 minutes watching a bunch of crazy black folk act a fool....but boy was I wrong to judge that book by its cover!

I have fallen IN LOVE with this show for two reasons:

1. Keyshia's love and acceptance of her family and the way she tirelessly takes on each challenge with patience and grace. She inspires me to be more patient, generous and graceful in my own interactions with my family and friends.

2. This show doesn't sugarcoat ANYTHING! These women have allowed us to be the "voyeur next door" and witness them at their worst and at their best. I applaud their courage and commitment. I don't know if I would be willing to allow millions of people to turn my life into a circus sideshow event. That takes guts!

Much love to you Keyshia, Neffe, Frankie, the baby girls, and now Elite and Sammy. You have my prayers, my love and most of all.....my applause! Can't wait for next season............

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Sandi Owens

"We attract to our lives what we believe to be true....."

i look keyshia in a different way now that i have watched her show. i thought that she was just this famous person living her life as a star (bla bla )that type of mess but when i watched her show i see that she is just another black women who works hard for what she want MUCH RESPECT KEYSHIA COLE

 

 

swanzetta

from donalsonville Ga

That is very commendable of you. You could have given up on life and just settle for $567 a month but you did not. As far as my opinion of the show well it is what it is. A real family holding nothing back. For everyone who keeps posting pleas for Neffe to not have an Abortion, this was recorded way back in AUGUST! Pay attention to the dates Tuesday the 14th. Whatever she was going to do has already been done. Those poor babies whom had never really had the opportunity to meet Frankie before have to be traumatized. And unlike Neffe and Keyshia they had no idea what to expect. Thank God for the Coles and Keyshia's true friend Ronique! We also have to understand that children who grow up in foster homes or home to hall most times will always be protective of their mother. I think that is where Neffe is coming from. However Sammy and Elite had no bond with Frankie and therefore no loyalty. Neffe needs to understand and respect that. Just my opinion

Love this show.  This is a lot of responsibility for a young woman like Keyshia.  I hope her mom continue to mature and become a positive light for Keyshia.  Franki seems soooo sweet and loving.  But, she is just so mad at herself and desperate for respect.  However, she must mature first.  Love her!  Love Neffie, everyone including the step-family. 

I think God made sure Keyshia did not come to the reunion until after the mess ended.  It was her desire to ENJOY this blessed event.  God made sure she did.  I really believe He is watching over her. 

LOLOLOL!! "I'll put my teeth in when I'm ready!" I was like "they should be in when you get out of the bed and stay in til you go back to bed!" I missed what Yvonne said to her to make her say that! That "family" is just DRAMA-FILLED!!! Frankie and Neffe make me ill. They're both jsut walkin attitudes!!! You see how Frankie had to get drunk to face her children?! That's all from shame and guilt...and nervousness. How sad! And honestly, I wouldn't Neffe to abort the baby, but I can see where she's in a real tough situation...pregnant by a man outside the marriage, who's on drugs, who's denying the baby....that's tough. I wish people would think more before they act. It would save SO much heart-ache. Go*73* Do you think Yvonne, Keyshia's foster-mother, was sincere in her prayer and all or was that just an act?I'm REALLY lookin forward to next season. Also, check this out....http://www.mediatakeout.com/20254/a_family_affair_keyshia_cole_and_her_mother_attack_woman_in_downtown_memphis.html