hah12 wrote:Why not flip it and ask why don't men marry there baby's momma?

Good idea i should have made it both ways that would have been more fair to us ladies..

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Put it like this--- things were great when the best fisrt came. After a while we could not be in the same room without a war starting. I got tired and lifet. I do not even consider him to be my baby daddy. I like to refer to him as a SPERM DONOR. That was all he did and I appreciate it, but calling him a baby daddy would give him credit for something more than what he did. ALL he did was donated a lil sperm, I appreciate it.

Lets try this question on for size...Why not get MARRIED, OWNING PROPERTY, HAVE JOB before having KIDS!!!

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The answer to this question from me is this, I did marry my baby's father and that was the worst thing i could have ever done.First off, i found out later on he only married me because he was afraid he wasn't going to see his son anymore since i was signing over the rights to my mother to go to the army being that he did not take part in my son's begginning life.Got married and he cheated after 2 weeks in marriage and further down the line.Then I found out he had an abusive side to him to where he would actually punch me if we were in a heated arguement.Divorce was the only option otherwise my son would have been fatherless....

If he's a baby daddy then that's his purpose...to supply the sperm so she get some benefits...nothing in that contract says anything about marriage...heck the goverment make certain to stop ALL the benefits if that were to happen...

More than likely if you're living with the guy and everythings going great so far....he's a professional baby daddy who need a place to stay...THE N.IGGALO LOL

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Because he has a lot of work on himself to do before he can fully commit to a relationship and marriage.

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There are two ways to live life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.
-Albert Einstein

Earl, that's the question that should be really asked? My wife and I lived in seperate apts at the time we got together and after 2 yrs, I proposed and after that we went house shopping along with looking for land in other states. Let's say that we are MORE than happy with land in Alabama, our home near Spelman College and a daughter coming in 2 months and LIFE IS GOOD!! I refuse to be a "baby's daddy" and I don't see why people shack up, but hey I got my own business to tend to so I'll leave my opinion out of this!!

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I asked myself this question.

I thought about this several times. I know why I didn't want to get married.

After the kids after the engagment, then the  fighting after the baggage from his previous relationships, I realised it wasn't even worth it.  Now  he has all the time in the world but if he gave me an ultimatum to leave or to marry him when before we had the kids I would have left and lived  my life the way that it's supposed to be lived then.

Men don't give ultimatems when they are the ones Effing up and you are the one forgiving. They will try to get away with what they can fo rthe time being until then they will waste your time if they know for sure they don't want to get married or if they know for sure you don't want to marry them they will sit there as long as you sit there.

IT takes a strong woman to say to herself I don't need you anymore I'm fine by mysef I can make it on my own with my one two three kids.

It's like a divorce without a chance to get married You've already been divorced.

It's the same reaction the kids have the same result as if you've been married. What the hell  is the difference?

You look at someone who is divorced you're thinking hmm this person was in a relationship that failed. Look at someone with some kids broken up form a long term relationship DIVORCED.

This is what it is for me trying to know a man too side because that how u know if this person is good for u are if it is just sex for him.are if he is going to be a good dad whan the time come and not because u have a baby for him it don't mean that he is the man for u.

<BLOCKQUOTE><table width="85%"><tr><td class="txt4"><img src="/Themes/default/images/icon-quote.gif">&nbsp;<strong>Igotyouhooked wrote:</strong></td></tr><tr><td class="quoteTable"><table width="100%"><tr><td width="100%" valign="top" class="txt4">whatever chilli...all ya damn posts are the same... you always talking about babydaddys and relationships not working out... why not say something positive for a change, and then maybe your luck will change and you wont be on here soundin like a loser all the time in your posts.</td></tr></table></td></tr></table></BLOCKQUOTE>

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@Bonnie: Bonnie said: "I'm never going to have a 'baby daddy'".------------------------Oh, a girl after my own heart!!!.......................Bonnie, me neither, girl. Me neither!! I'm too good to let that happen to me. Sounds vain, not really. I just have standards.